We all make mistakes in life, it’s sort of part of the deal. But sometimes those mistakes live on with us forever. If you’ve been in a situation where you didn’t use a condom (How to properly put on a condom) and got a sexually transmitted infection, then you know what we’re talking about. You have this thing, whether it’s gonorrhea or chlamydia or herpes, and it doesn’t matter if it’s treatable or not, this is something you can give to others. It would be easy enough to just wear condoms and ignore it, but the symptoms are irritating and condoms don’t always protect like they should. When you meet someone that you want to have sex with, you really do need to tell them. That is probably one of the most awkward conversations that you could possibly have. We’re here to make it a little easier.
When the Time is Right
You don’t want to make them feel like you’re suddenly bringing up this STD right before you have sex. They might feel betrayed and led on if you wait that long. Instead you have to find the right time, or as right as it can get. The best way to do this is to have your first date. This gives them time to get to know you and see you as a person. If you come right out with it then they’re likely to leave before they get to know you. Ensure that this step happens.
Since you’re going to have to come out and tell them that you have an STD you do want to make sure that this is something that you trust them with. If you’re ready to rub your crotches together then you probably are already at that stage. So a few days before, mention it. Unless it’s HIV, this is a minor thing. You can treat STDs to make the symptoms recede and be less likely to spread. Be prepared to answer any questions that they might have. Not all people end up dealing with this sort of thing, and the commercials make it look a lot worse than it is. Explain that this is just a fact about you and you have it under control. This will reassure them and they’ll most likely be more open to the idea of continuing dating.
While you’re probably already handling treatment the best that you can, make sure that you continue that. Having any partner, new or not, means that you’re responsible for keeping them healthy by keeping yourself healthy. If you two aren’t so sure about doing this the right way, take the time to schedule an appointment with a doctor so that both of you can ask any questions that you have. The doctor will also reassure you and your partner that there are others out there who handle it and, although you’ll need condoms and medication, you can live normally with this condition. As can your partner. It is a lot to handle, so make sure to let them digest all of this information along the way.